I spoke with a woman the other day, and she said something that was so simple, but so true. Something that may get her some strong and harsh looks back in the day, and even now. She said,
“I’m not just a wife and a mom”.
She went on to explain that there’s more to her than two of the most important roles in her life. You may also identify with this statement. And while we know our identity does not fully exist in any one or combination of roles, yet the responsibilities that come along with being a wife and mom are plenty.
So much so that it can feel very exhausting and overwhelming to give your best in every area of your life, especially as your build your business. You may find yourself feeling overwhelmed by trying to keep it all together. But you’re not alone. There are many women who are working hard to build a successful business while also building a strong marriage and family.
You’re also not alone in that building business can bring a lot of challenges to your marriage. Many feel like they have to choose one or the other, which is a hard feeling to face. But I want to encourage you and remind you that you can certainly build a strong marriage, keep your family a top priority while also building your business and pursuing the work God is calling you to do. You don’t have to have a singular focus if you know God is calling you in a certain direction. But just how do you do it all?
How do you really build a business in a way that doesn’t strain your marriage or pull you away from the things that matter most to you?
I think you do it by “business-proofing” your marriage, which basically means you focus on building and scaling your business in way that creates more time, revenue and opportunity, so you can pour into your family. You “business-proof” your marriage by making sure you’re building your business so it runs as smoothly and effectively as possible, and so that your revenue is sustainable. You can do this by creating effective and efficient systems, building a strong team, strengthening your client system and by building passive income revenue. But this doesn’t happen all at once and takes time and energy to implement. However, you don’t have to watch your marriage suffer until you have all these things in place. No not at all. There are some simple strategies you can put in place right away, while you’re business proofing your marriage.
And what better way to find new strategies , than to see what other successful women are doing. I asked several different incredible women who are building a strong marriage, family and successful business all while making a difference in the world. And this is what they had to say.
How amazing women are business proofing their marriages
“The biggest struggle for me is probably time management, so I have to be careful to prioritize my marriage and family time over my business. I work outside the home full time right now, so my time at home has to be managed very carefully. I try to do business related tasks in the early morning hours, while the family sleeps, so that I can focus most of my free time in the evenings and on weekends on my husband and children. Writing out goals, breaking them down into actionable tasks, and scheduling them in my planner helps me to have a plan and stay on track with my business.”—Jenny of Jenny Ruby
I think it’s important, before you even consider implementing things in your marriage to help “business-proof” it, that you make sure you have married someone who is completely supportive of your dreams, even if they can’t personally relate to them/the industry. Otherwise, no matter what you do, it will be a continuous uphill battle. But, one big thing I’ve begun to do is bring my husband along to as many business-related activities as possible, even if it’s just delivering paintings. I think it’s important for your spouse to actually see the fruition of your hard work, and meet others in your industry who support and encourage you. In your spouse’s defense, all he/she may see at home is your stress, anxiety, hard-work, and maybe some profits along the way. But, there’s nothing more powerful than him/her seeing the absolute joy in your client’s face when they receive your product/service, or hearing the glowing compliments from your fellow entrepreneurs about his/her wife/husband/partner. It will help your spouse develop a real sense of pride!”—Brittany Branson of By Brittany Branson
“I try to have set office hour 10am – 3pm EST, where I’m at work while my daughter and husband are at work and school so that when they are home, I can be fully present. We also try to have date night once a week were we just hang out. Also, I try to include my husband in decision that I am struggling to make in my biz so that he feels involve.” Candice Prather, Sales Coach and Business Strategist
“We do this by communicating. We have very different careers and that can create tension. There is a lot of grace and forgiveness too. We also try to share our life/ career goals so we can help each other. I try and cut social media out early and later in the day.”—Elizabeth Fogarty, Photographer
“We have been at it a while and it has evolved over time, we are two totally different personalities and he’s a good listener and I am high energy entrepreneur, those two things help plus we agree only to vent about something then put it away and don’t let it interfere with our live once it’s out and over.” Connie Fuksa, Foote Title Insurance Co.
“I’m still in the midst of it and trying to create some boundaries for myself. I try to go to bed with my laptop only 2-3 times per week. He’s really sensitive to me working when we should be spending time together, totally understandable!”—Makeda Mutema-Newton of The Conference Connection
As you continue to business proof your marriage remember to give yourself time and grace to get things moving in the right direction. I think the best thing we can do as working wives is give ourselves extra servings of love and grace. There’s just so much to do in a day and we simply don’t need to add the pressure of trying to get it all done and trying to get it all perfect. So, as you read through these statement from women who are much like you, trying to make the best out of what they have, how have you been encouraged?
What tips are you taking away from this to apply to your business and marriage?
Want to talk about how working with me can help you business-proof your marriage…let’s schedule a time to chat.