This time of year is known for feelings of all things new and for the urge to set goals.
And while most of us have the best of intentions when it comes to laying out goals for our business and life…yet, studies show that very few actually follow through.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot and I believe that a major reason why so many fail to follow through with their goals has a lot to do with not truly wanting the results over the comfort and familiarity of the status quo. The truth is, to have something you’ve never had, you have to do things you’ve never done. And that means change and we all know how tough change can be. But I think there’s more to it than not wanting to change. That’s a big factor, yes, but I think that’s just one layer.
Because if we work hard and get what we’re looking for, then what? We have to maintain it. And sometimes the fear of losing something can overshadow the desire to have it at all.
I think people struggle with fear of success more than the fear of failure, thus it’s not uncommon to find yourself back into old habits and self-sabotaging behavior. But this certainly doesn’t mean you can’t do anything about this.
That’s why I’m sharing with you 3 questions to ask yourself before you set the next goal.
1. What am I actually trying to accomplish with this goal
Goals are great, but they’re often initially too surface. You have to do some digging to get to the real thing you’re trying to accomplish as a result of the goal. Not only will this help you be more specific, but this will help check your motives and possibly give you something more tangible to pursue.
Try this: Right now, make a list of 5 goals you want to accomplish in your business this year. Now, next to each goal, complete this phrase: “so that…” at least 5 times.
For example, if your goal is to earn more money this year, then you’d complete the phrase at least 5 times like this: My goal is to earn more money this year so that I can pay off my debt. So that I can have more money to save for my kid’s college. So that they don’t have to rely on student loans and can graduate from college debt-free. So that they can have the peace of mind of starting out their lives without the burden of financial debt. So that they can invest their money in things that support and flourish their dreams.
Now you give it a try.
Often our goals may seem like they’re just about us, but with some digging, you may find that your goals are bigger than you. Sometimes the motivation you need is to realize that when you give up on a goal that you’re not just letting yourself down, but that you’re giving up on those who stand to be impacted by your accomplished goal. So, before you write your next goal be sure you find out the real and tangible thing you’re actually trying to accomplish as result of achieving that goal. Because that’s what you’re really looking for. And you might find out that the goals you’re setting can be adjusted and rearranged once you get more specific about what you’re aiming to accomplish. This gives you more freedom and flexibility, which allows you to adjust more easily to the inevitable changes and surprises that come along the way.
2. What change would this accomplished goal create in my life
Speaking of changes, when you accomplish a goal there’s likely to be some changes required in your business and life in order to maintain the accomplishment. For example, when you grow your business and take on more clients, you’ll have to make some changes in your business in order to support the growth. You may need to hire new team members, add on new software like Dubsado handle more of your robust needs, raise your prices and more. Accomplished goals bring along change, and sometimes we sabotage our growth by not preparing for it.
For example, if one of your goals this year is to create an educational workshop then that means you will need to have time to create and launch that workshop. That means you’ll need to reduce the number of bookings you take on for a certain time period so you can work on the program. But often what happens, is the goal gets set but nothing changes, so the bookings take precedence over working on the program. Thus, the workshop never gets created and you’re left feeling discouraged for having not completed the goal. But the issue is you didn’t prepare for the growth. Preparing for the change can be hard when you don’t know exactly what to expect, however, in many cases,you can estimate what the change may look like and how to prepare for it. A more concrete way to do this is to find someone who’s accomplished the goal you’re trying to achieve. Perhaps you can book them for a mentoring or coaching session and find out how to best prepare for the goal you’re aiming to accomplish.
3. Do I believe I can accomplish this goal?
This question may seem obvious to ask, but believing in yourself is half the battle to accomplishing your goals. If you don’t truly believe you can accomplish the goal then you’ll likely sabotage yourself or give up when it gets too hard or uncomfortable, which then you become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don’t believe you can accomplish the goal, ask yourself why. Is it because you don’t have the support you need? The time or money? Or could it be something else? Perhaps you don’t believe you can accomplish the goal because you’re afraid you don’t have what it takes? Or maybe you don’t believe you’re cut out to achieve certain things in your life, so you don’t believe your goal is possible for you? I’m not sure what the answer is for you with your goals, but you have to be honest with yourself so you can set goals you’ll commit to.
We’re almost half-way through the first month of the year and chances are you’ve got some goals you want to keep pressing through this month.
What are they? And maybe you’re afraid to set some goals, what are those? Which of these questions resonates with you the most? If you liked this article, please share the love with a friend.